Must try tips for Positive Parenting
“Behind every young child who believes in himself is a parent who believed first”- Matthew Jacobsen
You all must have heard this often that to be in your child’s memories tomorrow you have to be in their lives today. This is only possible if you leave a positive footprint in their life during their childhood. While most of us strive to be great parents, there are numerous occasions when we tend to lose our sanity and feel frustrated. A conscious effort to stay a positive parent in these situations goes long term.
What is Positive Parenting?
Positive parenting is the continual relationship between a parent(s) and a child or children that includes leading, communicating, caring, teaching, nurturing and proving for the needs of a child consistently and unconditionally. Most of the parents have no clue that their unconscious actions and choices can have a negative impact on their children. One of the primary steps to positive parenting is to notice what we are actually doing. Here are some quick tips of positive parenting that can have a long lasting fruitful impact on your child.
Watch what you do
It is easy to lose patience and temper when a child is at his wits throwing a tantrum. Before you act, remember your child is learning from you. It’s good to take a deep breath and take a peaceful approach of handling such situations. Maybe placing yourself in your child’s once in a while helps to make sense of the situation better.
Channelise the energy
Young children are full of energy. You wish you had half of it to handle them better! Channelise their energy in positive ways-sports, brain activities, playdates are a couple of ways to keep their minds occupied. A good idea would be to involve yourself with your child in these activities once in a while to boost bonding and enhance encouragement.
Say No to Bribes
Children are the smartest people around! It may be quite tempting to give into their demands or bribe them to get your way around. But then, this method does more harm than benefit. Smart Parenting would be to connect with your child on a one-one basis and let them know that your love for them is unconditional. Hugs, encouraging words like “You can do it”, “I am here if you need” or simple hugs can help them overcome moods and situations better.
It comes impulsive to a parent to react to a child’s mistake or behaviour with anger or frustration. Remember, a child trusts his or her parent(s) unconditionally. A negative or overreaction from a parent, in a long term, can break a child’s trust which can result in children speaking lies or being reluctant to share. Listen to your child, relate to the situation and reason out their behaviour with consequences.
Yes versus No
If a child is hyper, a parent would find more reasons to say a No versus a Yes. If your child wants something or wishes to do something that you find wrong, don’t say ‘NO’ directly. Opt for diversions, distractions or simply communicate the reason for why you cannot agree to their demand. Find more reasons to say Yes. Be appreciative of their actions when possible. Praise and encourage wherever possible.
Every child is different. Some children are easy going while others need extra attention. But they are all sensitive and highly absorbing. If you have a positive impression on your children, they will always do their best to live up to your expectations. Happy Positive Parenting!
About the Author: HeyCloudy, The StoryLearning App is a screen-free Audio stories app for children between 2-8 years. HeyCloudy actively advocates “Parenting Through Stories” and helps new parents to prepare their child to be a happy and productive adult.